HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Healthy relationships are a foundation for strong individuals, families, and communities. Healthy relationships—friendships, dating/intimate partners, or family—are built on the following:
- Respect: Valuing each other’s feelings, culture, and voice.
- Communication: Being able to talk honestly and openly.
- Trust: Feeling safe, supported, and not judged.
- Balance: Each person matters; no one has control over the other.
Early Warning Signs of Unhealthy or Unsafe Behavior.
Relationship violence often begins subtly. Pay attention to the following:
- Jealousy or possessiveness.
- Isolation from friends, family, culture, or community.
- Constant checking in or monitoring (texts, social media, location).
- Put‑downs, teasing, or humiliation disguised as “jokes.”
- Pressure to engage in physical, romantic, or sexual behaviors.
- Anger or mood swings that create fear.
If you notice these signs in your relationship or a friend’s relationship, reach out for help.
Understanding Boundaries.
Healthy boundaries protect our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well‑being. Remember the following:
- You have the right to say “no” at any time.
- Boundaries are active, informed, and changeable.
- Your feelings do not need justification to be respected.
- Someone who cares about you will honor your limits.
Understanding Consent
Consent looks like the following:
- Clear – no guessing.
- Freely given – without pressure or fear.
- Reversible – you can change your mind anytime.
- Informed – you know what you’re agreeing to.
Anything less is not consent.
How to Support a Friend.
You don’t have to solve everything—just show up.
- Listen without judgment.
- Believe them.
- Help them stay connected (to culture, family, friends).
- Offer resources, not pressure.
- Check in regularly.
If You Need Support.
You’re not alone. Reach out to:
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call, text, or chat).
- School counselors or trusted staff.
- FourPoints Health or Tribal programs (behavioral health counseling, Puow’wan family and victim services, or youth services).
- Trusted adults, Elders, or community mentors.
- Mental health apps such as Calm or Headspace.
Asking for help is a strength—not a weakness.